way to go Lindsay!

I think as a parent one of the hardest things is watching your child suffer in anyway. You just want to reach out and rescue them immediately even if its necessary suffering. I'm sure this lesson becomes more intense as your kids grow older into adults. When LIndsay first started this new school from day one made two little friends. She was so happy and glowing with excitement. I thought "wow that was easy." But about 2 weeks into school one of the little girls decided that she didn't want Lindsay to be her friend anymore. Not only that but she turned into a brat teasing Lindsay and isolating her from the other girls. It is amazing to me that in 2nd grade little girls are capable of such manipulative behavior. But it's possible, and to my horror LIndsay was devastated. You also have to know Lindsay. She doesn't have a mean bone in her body. She is sweetest girl, and has always had the ability to think of others first at a very young age. She has never had a soul be mean to her. She has always been surrounded by many good friends. She did everything she could think of to make it right with this girl. Even giving her gifts, and drawing pictures. Everything she did made it worse. I kept encouraging her to play with other girls away from this girls circle of friends. But She seemed to monopolize the girls on the play ground. I was doing daily spying of her on the playground to try to get an accurate picture of what was happening. It was heartbreaking to see Lindsay wandering around alone kicking dirt. I felt like it was so unnecessary. I was mad that she was feeling like something was wrong with her. She said she had more friends in California because she was prettier there. That was hard for me to hear. So after a few weeks of this I talked to her teacher, and very close to calling this little girls mother. This hero teacher took me very seriously. She hadn't noticed anything, but was now on the lookout. She taught special lessons in class, and had all the students write papers about what it means to be a good friend at school. She rearranged the seating chart. I was so grateful that she didn't brush me off, or say "Oh that is normal, she'll be fine." I'm sure this is a necessary experience for Lindsay's Life experience. She has been so strong and hopeful. This last week we are finally seeing a breakthrough. I'm so happy, because I was starting to look into private schools etc. Lindsay has overcome this little trial in her life so well. I'm so proud of how she handled herself. She still doesn't have a close friend, but the isolation has gotten a little better everyday, and she has her confidence back. In the end I realize this experience was more traumazing for me than Lindsay. We both learned something!